Can you actually find love online? According to a recent study, yes!
For as many frustrated online love seekers as I speak to there are just as many, if not more, that have found love online. Including yours truly.
Psychology Today has determined that finding love online does actually work. They completed a study with 50 happily coupled people who met online. They found 5 things that made them successful and that just might work for you.
According to the study, the cliche breakup line, “it’s not you, it’s me,” might have a little more truth to it than once thought. But, if you are one of those frustrated online love seekers all hope is not lost.
Having a one track mind when seeking a partner might be just what’s preventing you from finding love. It’s important to be open to different types of people including people who don’t appear to match exactly what you want.
Now this doesn’t mean that you have to accept less than what you want. This just gives you a little time to get to know more about the other person than only what their dating profile shows, enabling your relationship to naturally develop.
The great thing about online dating is that it enables you to meet people that you might not have met otherwise. Put yourself out there and be open, you never know what unexpected love match is waiting.
Thanks to technology, you don’t have to date just within your city anymore. Successful daters used this to their advantage and broadened their search radius.
Long-distance isn’t for everyone and I’m not telling you to start a relationship across the globe. But, opening up your search radius a bit will only increase your likelihood of finding love online.
I’m not saying you don’t deserve it all, because you totally do. Being realistic with your expectations doesn’t mean that you can’t have standards or even a level of expectation. Just keep it in reality. Perfection doesn’t exist, perfection for you does.
Being realistic does even have a few advantages. The first, it helps to decrease disappointment. You’re setting yourself up for failure when expecting perfection from anyone including yourself. Instead, try getting to know the person before expecting something that they or anyone for that matter might not be able to provide.
Secondly, being realistic with your expectations, encourages openness to date outside of your “type.” You just might find that your expectations haven’t been met in the past because your type and your expectations don’t align. Venturing outside of your usual “type” could happily surprise you.
Not one of the 50 happily coupled people chose their partners because of looks or status. They identified qualities such as kindness and character as the deal makers. This ties back into the first point of being more open to different types of people than your usual type.
It takes a little more time to learn if your potential suitor has qualities like the ones listed above than a simple swipe. Stepping outside of your comfort zone to really get to know someone whom otherwise you might not have given the time of day could pay off with some qualities that you won’t want to say goodbye to.
You aren’t doing yourself any favors by settling. Even if you tell yourself that you’re only settling for the moment as you wait for your other half. By not settling these couples were ready when the right person for them came along.
These individuals intentionally dated. They were open minded, but did not settle for less than what made them happy. Not settling will help you to be mentally and emotionally ready to open up your heart when your person arrives.
There is a reason that the “search” or “hunt” for love is called just that. Love doesn’t fall into our laps. Love takes effort to find and even more to keep.
It’s vital that you know your worth as not to stay in any relationship that does not bring you joy and/or that is unhealthy.
If you’re struggling to find love off or online, you’re not alone. Many people struggle with finding love. Shyness, anxiety, low self-esteem, and even mental health issues can also play a role in this.
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